What is a fetish party?
Unfortunately, this question cannot be answered briefly and concisely. Why? Quite simply: There isn’t just one fetish party, but rather a large number of events . Each is to be considered individually. There is no fixed definition of what a fetish party looks like, how it works and what goes with it. And even one and the same party can be perceived differently by each guest. Nevertheless, we would like to summarize the basics for you below.
Basically, a fetish party is a party for kinksters , fetishists , BDSM enthusiasts and those interested. The prerequisite is therefore: An event where BDSM and sex positivity have their place. On which these tendencies are expected and which is prepared accordingly. Not every fetish party is also a so-called play party, where games , i.e. BDSM activities, and sex are allowed. It differs from a normal party in a club above all in terms of the audience. Because while in a hip-hop disco or a heavy metal bar all visitors like the same music, at a fetish party, fetish and BDSM are the common denominator.
Dress to impress
This usually goes hand in hand with the guests dressing specially for the evening . For example in latex , vinyl, leather, unusual boots, armour, masks and creative costumes. Because fetish parties are the perfect occasion to wear extravagant kinky outfits outside of your own four walls. Most events even have a dress code. Although chic evening wear is often permitted, if you are the only one with a tuxedo or a little black dress in the whole potpourri of shiny figures, you quickly feel underdressed. Naked skin is allowed and desired at fetish parties, but you usually don’t show everything.
Dark cellars and secret circles?
It’s true, you don’t necessarily find advertisements for fetish parties in the daily newspaper or on advertising pillars. But who seeks will find. The parties are mostly announced online, in BDSM forums, via newsletters or as flyers in sex shops . Or you can find out within the community when something is taking place. But that doesn’t mean that the kinky party people hide in dark cellars! Of course there are smaller, more intimate parties. But complex locations are also rented or entire concert halls are converted.
But what exactly happens at a fetish party?
When you hear the term, you might quickly think of (group) sex, flagellation in front of an audience and bondage together . The main thing at most fetish parties is dancing. The music selection is wide: techno, house, EBM, dark, gothic, sometimes even rock and 80s. Contacts are made, people have a drink, sit or stand together and talk. You can enjoy the special atmosphere together and marvel at how fetish becomes tangible and being kinky can express itself visually.
But of course BDSM also has its place at a fetish party. So-called play areas are provided. If you want to play, you can let off steam here as you please. Also in front of an audience. The mood and the guests decide how much fetish there is at the party.
Almost everything is possible, nothing must
Most of the time, it stays with classic practices that can be implemented without much effort, such as flogging. Basically, kinksters are among themselves here. Outfits and gestures that are otherwise difficult in public are allowed here. Kneeling down, leading someone on a leash, massaging feet or serving as a human ashtray can and may be observed here. In short: Almost all personality aspects can be lived out that would normally cause public outrage or at least lopsided looks.
Classic fetish parties are not about sex and satisfaction. The vibe is sexy, but there are limits. Sexual intercourse is explicitly forbidden at many events. Those who are primarily concerned with playing more intensively attend play parties.
