What is a Pleasure Sub? The Kinky Dictionary

A pleasure sub is a unique figure within the BDSM community, one who finds joy in the art of giving. They are individuals who revel in providing their dominant partner with pleasure, prioritizing their partner’s enjoyment above their own. It’s a role that demands a selfless dedication to the happiness of another.

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What is a Pleasure Sub

A pleasure sub is a submissive who gets sexual satisfaction primarily from providing pleasure to their dominant partner. While some subs enjoy activities like discipline or punishment, a pleasure sub revels in catering to their partner’s desires and fulfilling their fantasies.

For a pleasure sub, their focus isn’t necessarily on chasing their own orgasm or sexual gratification. Instead, they gain immense satisfaction from lavishing their dom with sensual attention, following commands, and helping them achieve intense pleasure and release. They love being “used” by their dom for their enjoyment.

A pleasure sub might give oral sex, provide erotic massages, participate enthusiastically in their dom’s favorite kinks, or obey their commands. Their goal is to be an instrument of pleasure. They enjoy pleasing their dom physically, emotionally and psychologically.

Traits of a Pleasure Sub

The characteristics of a pleasure sub are diverse, yet they share common threads that define their role:

Focused on providing pleasure and catering to their dominant partner’s desires rather than their own sexual gratification. For example, giving oral sex, sensual massages, participating in dom’s favorite kinks.
Enjoys being “used” by their partner for their enjoyment. Gets satisfaction from lavishing dom with attention and serving them.
Possesses empathy, emotional intelligence to understand partner’s needs.
Values mutual care, consent in the relationship. Feels secure that limits will be respected by dom.
They demonstrate obedience within the agreed-upon boundaries of their dynamic.

Tools and Techniques

To enhance the experience for both the pleasure submissive and the dominant partner, a variety of tools and techniques can be employed:

Tools

Vibrators: These can be used by the dominant to control the pleasure of the submissive, often as part of orgasm control techniques.

Blindfolds: Removing the sub’s ability to see can heighten other senses and add an element of surprise and anticipation.

Bondage Gear: Items like bondage kits, ropes, cuffs, and restraints can be used to limit the sub’s movement, increasing their sense of vulnerability and dependence on the dom.

Spanking Implements: Tools like whips, paddles, or crops can be used for impact play, delivering controlled pain that can be pleasurable for the sub.

Techniques

Sensation Play: This involves stimulating the sub’s senses to enhance their sexual experience. It can include the use of textures, temperatures, and other sensations.

Orgasm Control: Techniques like edging, where the sub is brought close to climax and then denied, can increase intensity and pleasure.

Role-Playing: Engaging in different scenarios can create a more immersive experience. For example, the dom could act as a caretaker, master, or other roles that fit the dynamic.

Sensory Deprivation: Limiting one or more of the sub’s senses can make them more attuned to touch and other sensations, making every action more intense.

FAQs

How does a pleasure sub differ from other subs?

Unlike other subs who might enjoy discipline or punishment, pleasure subs are primarily motivated by their partner’s pleasure. They may not seek their own gratification directly but find joy in their partner’s satisfaction.

What tools might a pleasure sub use during play?

Pleasure subs might use tools like ropes, paddles, blindfolds, or nipple clamps, as well as safety gear appropriate for the activities they engage in.

What traits make a good pleasure sub?

Empathy, emotional intelligence, good communication skills, obedience within limits, enthusiasm to cater to their dom’s fulfillment.

Pleasure subs are doormats?

No, they are not there to serve their partner’s every whim outside of the dynamic. They focus on providing pleasure within the agreed-upon boundaries of the dynamic.